Holiday Survival Guide: Staying Sane When the Season Gets Loud
The holidays bring a lot with them — lights, gatherings, memories, traditions, and a noticeable shift in pace.
For many people, that shift can quietly affect how they feel, even when life is generally going well. Emotions surface more easily, energy gets stretched thinner, and things feel just a bit louder inside and out.
If that’s been your experience, it doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you. It means you’re human.
This guide offers grounded, practical ways to stay emotionally steady and protect your energy during a busy, high-stimulus season.
What follows isn’t about fixing yourself — it’s about understanding what’s getting activated, and how to move through it with more steadiness.
1. Emotional Turbulence: Why You Feel Off (Even If Nothing Is “Wrong”)
The holidays can pull up emotional layers you thought you’d outgrown:
old painful memories
childhood patterns
loneliness
reminders of who you used to be
subtle comparison
grief for versions of yourself you’ve lost
This creates a kind of internal static — you just don’t feel great and you can’t pinpoint the switch.
In situations like this, I’m a big fan of micro-journaling.
How micro-journaling diffuses emotional pressure:
Step 1: Start simple.
Write down single-word labels for how you feel:
frustrated, angry, sad, overwhelmed, numb, tired.
Step 2: Get granular.
Give each feeling a sentence:
I am frustrated because Johnny from down the block just bought a BMW and I just got laid off and can’t find a job.
I am sad because I’m still single, and I remember being happy with Mary Kate from across the road when I was 17.
This isn’t about dramatizing — it’s about naming.
Once feelings get specific, they stop dominating.
Your brain moves from felt chaos to clear context.
2. Forced Cheer (and the Pressure to “Be Happy”)
The holidays bring a strange invisible pressure:
Smile.
Be grateful.
Match the room.
Don’t bring the vibe down.
But here’s the truth:
Forced cheer doesn’t create connection — it creates performance.
It also creates shame:
“Why can’t I just be happy like everyone else?”
In situations like this, I’m a big fan of returning to your natural state.
No performances.
No pressure to match the room.
No internal excuses.
Just authentic presence — showing up exactly as you are.
People feel connection from honesty, not from emotional choreography.
3. Social Comparisons (The Joneses Effect)
Few things activate comparison like the holidays:
new jobs
new cars
new houses
new relationships
new “wins”
Suddenly it feels like everyone is leveling up except you.
Comparison isn’t a moral failure — it’s a reflex.
But if left unchecked, it becomes corrosive.
In situations like this, I’m a big fan of micro-boundaries.
Tell yourself:
“I’m not living inside someone else’s highlight reel.”
“I reclaim my pace.”
Your life isn’t a race.
Your timeline is yours.
Say no to Mr. and Miss Jones — you’ve got your own path to build.
4. Encounters With Annoying People
Every family has those people:
the unhinged uncle
the sibling who pushes your buttons
the father-in-law who always says the wrong thing
These patterns don’t magically disappear because it’s December — in fact, the holidays often amplify them.
In situations like this, I’m a big fan of micro-boundaries.
Try one of these:
Keep interactions short and neutral — avoid going for depth.
Use an internal script:
“I know in the past I’ve let you piss me off, but today that ain’t happening, bro.”
Take a breather early — don’t wait until you’re fully triggered.
Boundaries aren’t confrontational.
They’re small interventions that keep your nervous system from slipping into old emotional loops.
5. Social Overload (Too Many Gatherings, Too Little Regulation)
Back-to-back gatherings create overstimulation:
too much noise
too much small talk
too much emotional monitoring
too much input
And too much stimulation often produces a depleted, strung-out version of you — one who wants to get on the next plane out of Dodge.
In situations like this, I recommend:
Pick your “must attend” events.
Everything else? Optional.
Or shorten the window.
Arrive late.
Leave early.
Protecting your energy is protecting your mental space.
6. Alcohol & Dopamine Disruption
No one loves a drop (or two) of wine more than myself — but several days of back-to-back drinking can create a dopamine crash that mimics emotional distress:
irritability
low motivation
emotional fog
low mood
feeling “off” for no clear reason
This isn’t weakness — it’s biology.
In situations like this, I’m a big fan of having a drinking strategy for the night:
decide in advance what feels right for you
stick to it
hold the line
build in alcohol-free nights to let your system reset
This intentionality keeps you in control instead of being swept up by the moment.
It also protects your mental space from preventable crashes.
Final Thought
The holidays don’t require perfection.
They require presence, self-regulation, and a bit of emotional strategy.
When you know what triggers you — and you have tools to navigate those triggers — you stop getting hijacked by the season and start moving through it with steadiness and clarity.
If you’re struggling to stay centered, or you want support navigating the pressure, emotions, and expectations this season brings — coaching can help.
👉 Let’s talk — if what you’ve read resonates, we can explore how coaching can support you through the holidays and into the new year.
